“The utmost important task to do is to be happy in Life” This particular phrase has become a so called “Mantra” in the today’s world.
The happiness mania has become more like epidemic—very widespread all around the world. The quest for happiness is important, we all have told ourselves over years.
Whilst we all are going all gaga over finding happiness in our life, I think we should all stop for once and ponder, “Really is it only happiness that we should seek in our lives?”.
As for me, I don’t understand the whole concept of it.
For me, trying to be happy is analogous to chasing a butterfly. It certainly does look beautiful and we all want to chase it in vain. But look at the odds of getting it despite of a chase? It still is very less.
Anything can make us happy ranging from the favorite food our mom cooks, to the friend we meet, the gossips we do, to the movies we watch. But the feeling that we have inside whilst are doing such activities, are they going to be forever? Isn’t Happiness is just a momentarily feeling—something that last utmost to an hour? So why over hype it and make it a lifelong goal?
Isn’t life supposed to be full of both positive and negative experiences– which further retaliates into happiness and sadness? Life I believe is more like Ying and Yang, how Zens’ put it, a balance between good and bad (Happiness and Sadness in our context).
Khalil Gibran writes “what thou you know about happiness when you know naught about the sadness.”
Indeed, Happiness does not make sense without sadness in the life. The desperation, the sadness, is a guru, which makes us appreciate things in life. And trying to remove, this chunk from our lives will leave us numb and make us less human, I would argue.
Moreover, when we get obsessed with the idea of being happy, we tend to develop a fear towards sadness. This fear, further, makes it difficult for us to enjoy the moment or the present where we should be living it. It further will make us anxious to take life as it is.
Lastly I think happiness happens when we stop trying so hard and go with the natural flow of life. Like the butterfly, it comes and sits in our shoulder, when we stop chasing it. Hence, it is necessary to embrace the whole surges of feeling—both good and bad that comes our way. This will make our life more meaningful and worth living.