I Do not Believe In Love At First Sight
What is Love all about?
Love is defined as a feeling which in reality cannot be described in words. It has no perfect definition. Every individual cannotes Love in his/her own way. Although it has various characteristics and one of them is that Love is all about seeing, knowing and accepting the other one with all of their faults and flaws!
And this makes me believe that Love can never be at first sight. It is unimaginable to fall in love with a person whom we don’t even know. In the first sight we only get attracted with the way the other person looks, their outer self. But Love does not happen externally. It brushes aside the physical appearance of the person and goes through the internal features. We Love the inside of a person, his or her personality and this is possible only once we completely know the attitudes and behaviours of the other. Because.. we don’t just fall in Love with a beautiful face and a handsome structured body but..
We fall in Love with the way someone talks!
We fall in Love with the way someone helps others!
We fall in Love with the way someone cares for others!
We fall in Love with the way someone looks at us!
We fall in Love with the way someone appreciates us!
We fall in Love with the way someone stays with us!
Love is never a choice. It is irresistible and beyond one’s control. If only love was possible at first sight, it would have been a matter of choice. It happens gradually, with time, with patience. Often attraction on the first instance is imputed as Love, which is why these days relationships aren’t working. We over look that how long will the physical appearance stay? It is only the nature of the human which is stable. Rest are evanescent.
How to know whether its Love or not?
If it makes you restless, it is not Love.
Love stays calm.
If it makes you think about yourself, it is not Love.
Love is selfless.
If it makes you insecure, it is not Love.
Love is protective.
If it makes you leave behind your family, near and dear ones, it is not Love.
Love binds relationships, and not breaks them.
If it makes you dependent on the other person, it is not Love.
Love is independent.
I believe that, Love takes time and thus it is apt to have faith in its existence, it gives strength and power to fight against odds, to think out of the box, to choose the right path and most importantly Love gives reasons to live.
Scrutinise yourself before falling for someone, because Love is a pleasure. It happens with the soul of a person, not with the exterior appearance.
Realise the existence of your Soulmate.
Love wouldn’t come with a blink of an eye.
It’ll happen to you.